Ah, I knew there was something I forgot to put in yesterday’s post.
Yes, revenge. If you’ve been cheated on, you’ll want it.
Hell, you may even ache for it.
You may feel an intense desire to try and make the cheater hurt as much as they hurt you. You may wish all sorts of misery, pain and shame upon them. You may even have the means to enact some seriously damaging shit on them.
But don’t do it.
And no matter how wicked the ideas you come up with may seem, no matter how much you marvel at your own creativity – keep those thoughts to yourself. And for fuck’s sake, don’t share them with your best friend who’s been helping you deal with what’s just happened. Why not?
They’ll probably encourage you to do them.
And if you’ve got naked photos of your ex, you may want to delete them just to resist the temptation. Because whatever ideas you may come up with, you’ll think up some seriously damaging ones if you’ve got compromising pics.
Like what?
Well, how about making a web page with a lot of references and links to your ex’s business in the hopes of luring some of their Google traffic your way? Or maybe using them to post personal ads online that have the cheaters email address(es) and/or phone number in them? Or you may think of making this shit seriously public and print them out on stickers (with appropriate contact info, of course) and sticking them up in places where they’ll get lots of attention?All wonderfully evil ideas, and ones that would bring you some sense of satisfaction.
But not really worth it.
Any satisfaction you feel will most likely be short-lived. (Unless you’re a truly evil bastard.) And you may end up doing more damage to your reputation than to the cheaters. They’re already going to be known as a cheating skank/bastard, and that should be enough.
Of course, they may be spreading lies about why you broke up.
In that case there’s only one thing you can do:
Tell the truth.
If anybody comes back to you with a bullshit version of why you two aren’t together anymore, set them straight. They may be surprised, but so what? At least you’re not the one who’s been lying to your friends.I suppose if I were to condense all this into one single thought, it’d be this:
Take the high road.
Yeah, it’s not as satisfying and wrecking somebody’s day/week/life, but it’ll serve you better in the long run. Okay, so doing that carries the price of people thinking you’re weak or “too nice” (whatever the fuck that means), but so what? You’ll know you’re in the right.
And anybody who’s a true friend will know that as well.