Just enjoy where they are.
I have issues when it comes to relationships. No, not stuff from the past coming back to haunt me or give me the worries.
I can get the worries just fine on my own.
I have (what I know must be quite) an annoying habit of wanting to know where things stand when I’m in a relationship. Yeah, that sounds like a stereotypical “chick” point of view, but I do it just the same.
But I’m trying not to – this time.
Yes, I’m seeing somebody now. A really cool girl named Miyoko. We’ve only been seeing each other a few weeks, but it’s been really nice. We got together with the understanding of “nothing serious,” which I’m cool with. Of course, were things to get more serious, I’d be cool with that as well.
Now, me being me, I started to wonder (too soon, probably), whether or not things might be headed that way. Maybe they are, maybe they aren’t.
Maybe I shouldn’t concern myself with that just yet.
I was thinking about all this and I realized why I was starting that mental discussion so soon into the relationship. It’s the whole “friends with benefits” thing. I’ve had them in the past, but hadn’t really had one since moving to Japan. Sure, I’ve had sex-friends where it was basically just “hey, are you free? cool, let’s hook up tonight!” and nothing more. None of them involved much of anything outside the bedroom other than an occasional meal.
But this time it’s different.
I’ve got a lot more in common with this girl than any of the others, which is great. She’s into all sorts of geeky stuff (anime, games, manga), she likes goofy comedies and action movies and she’s a lot of fun to hang out with.
And she’s absolutely wonderful in bed. ^.^
She’s the first “friend with benefits” I’ve had here that was really into the “friends” part as much as the “benefits” part. We’ve gone out with friends of hers for yakitori and karaoke, bummed around Harajuku, cooked dinner together… Heck, she was even excited to go to the Flea Market and Comic City this week.
It’s while looking back on this that I realized that my pondering on the status of things was so stupid.
Who cares where it’s going!?!?
Where it is is a great place to be. Maybe things will progress, or maybe they’ll stay as they are for a long time. Or maybe the opposite is true? So what? Things are great right now and I’m not going to muck up any of that time by playing pointless mind-games with myself.
I’m gonna have some fun! ^.^
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